Comment by Joel Harkes on What to do if my family keeps trying to fix my...
Did you try and explain to them why you don't want it? You don't want to fight anymore but maybe they think your mom changed in the mean time or they don't realise at all how much the fighting...
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on What to do if my family keeps trying to fix my...
@clueless good luck, having feelings is not childish and of-course you take it personal since it is family. If you have good friends I encourage you to ask them for advice. They can take a non personal...
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on How do I correct my daughter's teacher's grammar?
Totally agree, correctly privately and compliment in public are guidelines that set you up for life.
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on Being talked over in conversations
You might want to change your subject, it looks like you mean gossiping ;-). But on the side. Do other people notice it. is it at work or with friends? Generally speaking, not letting someone finish is...
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on How to stop family from pushing me to forgive and...
@EmC yes, my weakness is I'm nosy, i don't need to know and that's fine. Don't tell me but it might help telling more other people (friends). It will help you realize you are an awesome person and...
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on Being talked over in conversations
@MrGuy yea make sure it is not to start a fight, you can simply state it and if they defend themselves, dont say anything back. It is about you conveying your message. Think of it this way: They might...
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on How to politely turn down my surprise birthday...
@VadaCurry Being afraid of what you believe and hiding it is going to be the worst option here. Either colleagues find out and will be disappointed they put effort in it and you avoid it instead of...
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on How to explain to customer service they are wrong...
Depends on what your goal is? You just want the webshop know they could do better. Or you want to be Compensated for your loss?
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on How to politely turn down my surprise birthday...
This is terrible? you can't keep this up every year? And if you would go on picnic or take a day of you are technically still celebrating your birthday. Although you might see it as hiding...
View ArticleComment by Joel Harkes on How to join in when people are gossiping?
Amazing answer. Also Once you learn some people better, im pretty sure you can find some common interests you can talk about.
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for How do I deal with a mother who won't take "no" for...
People can be hard but especially family you can't avoid.I am no expert but you could try and think of the following:What is the reason she is pursuing her ideas on you? Do you know the reason, did you...
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for Is it rude to ask if a pregnancy was planned?
I think the problem, in this case, is not the question but the relationship you have with the subject of the question and the goal (why the question is asked).For me, I married and my wife got pregnant...
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for Are "pleasantries" in emails still ... "pleasant"?
I'm not an expert but I think it totally depends on who you are writing and who you are.I used to have a friend once, who would almost only call if she needed something. Same goes for emails: People...
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for How to approach my spouse about their weight gain?
For me it was like this. I like my wife to be healthy skinny. I told her when we had a good conversation about each other. This at first made her feel very bad about her weight and I had to spend a lot...
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for How to avoid wishing my coworker on her birthday?
You don't believe in birthdays, or in celebrating them? Hard to deny this person was born? Jehovah's Witnesses also don't celebrate birthdays because they think only God is worth celebrating. I used to...
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for How to tell girlfriend I don't want to meet without...
I have been in the exact position and now am happily married with her. As extrovert as I look I need introvert time to relax and gain energy.Like other answers say: telling her you need time for...
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for How to deal with anxiety/control issues in...
(If you can't hide it) talk about it. Tell her you don't want to restrict her in what she does but you are also afraid she leaves or cheats on you.I had long distance for half a year, we were both...
View ArticleAnswer by Joel Harkes for How to politely stress that I do not wish to eat...
The other answers are exactly right: it's not so much the diet, it is them not seeing/accepting your diet.They love you enough to lie to you and tell you it is soy milk instead of cow milk. but they...
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